“如果他真喜欢，就该早点求婚”...没做到这一点后，这位刚单身的小姐姐干脆甩了男朋友。
不过，网上不少人吐槽她的做法，觉得她的前男友“躲过一劫”。
Bela Marie 是一位自称“自我价值感导师”的网红，她在TikTok上发布视频说：“第一次约会我就告诉他，两年内必须求婚。结果两周年那天，我和他分手了。”
@iambelamarie Yes you read that right. When we started dating, I told him he had 2 years to propose. On our 2-year anniversary—after he flew me out to Catalina, surprised me with a suite and a beautiful boat around the island to celebrate “our love,” and planned a beautiful long weekend trip—he did not propose. So I broke up with him and ended our relationship. THANK GOD I did not marry that man. There were so many reasons I should have left prior, but I decided to stay—and this was the tipping point. I’m blessed every day that this man is no longer in my life, and I’m proud of myself for sticking by my gut and what I told him on our first date. Ladies, time is not a love language. If you have big dreams and goals that require a male counterpart—like marriage and a family—I wholeheartedly believe you should not waste more time than necessary on the WRONG PERSON. After two years of being together, he was still uncertain about marrying me … then I wasn’t going to wait around to change his mind, beg for him to help me achieve my goals, or work harder out of this idea that I needed to “prove my worth.” He didn’t make a move. So I did—I left. Consistency without commitment is just convenience. And I’m around for a man that commits. Not a boy that wants to waste my time. #f#fypw#womend#datingadvices#selfrespectr#relatableb#belamariew#womand#datings#selfwortht#toxict#toxicrelationships#situationship ♬ what falling in love feels like x turning page - alex
这个视频点击量超过了 1000 万次。
Marie 在视频中透露，她和交往两年的男友一起去度假庆祝周年纪念，结果男友并没求婚，她当场分手。她表示，感谢老天我没嫁给这个男人。
她还描述了当时的场景：“我们去了 Catalina 岛，订了套房，还租了游艇环岛庆祝‘我们的爱情’，安排了完美的长周末……结果他却没求婚，所以我结束了这段关系。”
Marie 坦言自己早就有分手的理由，但这是压倒骆驼的最后一根稻草。“我每天都庆幸这个男人不在我生命里了，我为自己坚持原则感到骄傲。”
许多网友觉得 Marie 太“苛刻”，称她是“行走的红旗（警示）”，认为恋爱两年就要求终身承诺太快。
研究显示，大多数情侣会在恋爱 2-5年后订婚，只有 30% 的情侣会在 2 年内求婚，还有 17% 的人甚至等了 6 年以上。
Marie 说，她不会把时间浪费在一个两年后还不确定的人身上。“如果两年后他还不确定要不要娶我，我就不会再等，不会为了实现自己的目标而‘证明自己有价值’。”
她强调：“没有承诺的关系只是方便而已，我要的是愿意承诺的男人，不是浪费我时间的‘男孩’。”
而支持者说：“别为任何人降低自己的标准。”还有人评论：“周年旅行安排得那幺浪漫却不求婚，真过分。”
一名网友分享：“我等了10年，他还是不确定，我们值得更好的。”
另一条点赞很高的评论写道：“我喜欢这一代女生懂得及时止损，太棒了！”
